As humans, we spend a lot of time talking about “moving on.” Whether it’s getting over a breakup, dealing with the death of a loved one, or finally leaving a toxic work environment—we are encouraged to move on with our lives, rather than dwelling on the past.
But what does that mean, exactly? Regardless of the event, or its severity, there are four main elements to moving on:
WORKING THROUGH THE EMOTIONAL AFTERMATH
Whenever you go through a difficult experience, there are negative emotions you will continue to experience. The first thing to do is to figure out where those emotions are coming from.
When you experience a loss or a traumatic experience, you often have trouble explaining how it happened. The experience has created a tear in your life story. You may find yourself having repeated thoughts about what happened. That pattern (called rumination) reflects that your brain is staying vigilant for information about potential dangers you don’t understand.